Are you worried that you may be in an abusive relationship?
Look at some of the behaviours below and if you answer ‘YES’ to any of them then it’s very possible that you are with an abusive partner or that your ex-partner was or still is abusive.
Are you afraid of your partner/family member/ex-partner?
Do they try to stop you seeing or speaking to your friends or family?
Do you feel very down and low for a lot of the time?
Do they get angry if you don’t answer your calls or texts straight away?
Do they ring or text you constantly until you pick up or reply ?
Did they tell you that they loved you very early on in the relationship and pushed any boundaries that you had?
Do they constantly get angry if you speak to other people and accuse you of cheating or ‘fancying’ them?
Do they accuse you of behaviour that you didn’t do? Do they get angry easily and demonstrate this with physical actions?
Do they blame you for their actions?
Do they make you feel sorry for them due to their childhood or being with an abusive partner previously?
Do you understand the phrase “ walking on eggshells” because this is how it feels for you ?
Do you constantly change your behaviours to try to keep them happy?
Do you have signals that you use to your children to warn them that the person is not in a good mood or to warn the children to leave the room?
Do they say they will kill themselves if you ever leave them?
These are just some of the signs that you may be with an abusive partner. If you have children and they see or hear what is going on, they too are at risk of harm. Please know that you will be supported and not judged when you speak to us at the Lighthouse. We understand how difficult it can be to manage being with an abusive partner and being a good parent.
